K*ll your inner perfectionist before it k*lls you.

Spiritual Business Secret of the Week

Successful entrepreneurs have high standards but are rarely perfectionists. This is because the energy behind perfectionism is actually fear and unworthiness, not high standards. The identity that produces high quality and the identity that tries to be perfect might look the same but they are polar opposites.

Dear friend,

I’m checking in as a reforming perfectionist. I have come so far but spirit has more work to do on me.

One of the most challenging things about running a business is looking back at previous offers, content and ways of being and feeling like they don’t measure up to where you want to be.

It’s truly humbling.

Even though I know the stuff I put out is good and helps people, I often feel like it’s just not good enough.

What I’ve been learning is that it’s so important to practice detachment from your work. Even though I love it and want it to be incredible, I can’t let perfectionism slow me down or I’ll have nothing to show at all.

For years I struggled to be consistent with a blog because my mum hated my blog. But now I regret not just putting my thoughts out to the world anyway. It would be so awesome (and cringe) to look back at that version of me.

Abandoning perfectionism isn’t just about making more money. It’s about having a body of work to show for all the learning, growing I’ve been doing for so long.

I’m always envious of people who just put their work out there and keep it moving. So I’ve decided to do the same.

It also reminds me how entrepreneurship forces you to kill your darlings. That offer you loved but no one bought, despite giving it your all? You’ve got to let it go and move on. Does it hurt? Yes. But so does not making the impact and income you desire. The market is just giving feedback. It’s not personal. It’s never personal.

The only metric of success I want to focus on is: Did I show up and post the content, say the thing, make the offer?

It’s the only thing I can truly control anyway. The outcome is totally up to The All of Everything.

So even if I cringe at the work that past Lola produced, at least she made it and shared it.

Ask yourself this: what am I not sharing because I’m trying to be perfect? What is perfectionism costing my future self and destiny?

With love,

Lola